Welkom terug Janine…ons het gewonner waarmee is jy doenig

Ek’s terug!

Interessante gesprekke en afsprake met ‘n paar mense gehad, hard gewerk, baie tyd by my prokureur spandeer en my doodgeskrik in hierdie twee weke wat verby is. En ek voel soos ‘n nuwe mens…Maar wag, ek vertel netnou.

Ek en ‘n baie goeie vriend van my het so rukkie terug na ‘n fliek gesels oor die lewe en dinge. Hy het ‘n voorstel gemaak dat ek ‘n total make-over moet oorweeg: ‘n nuwe haarstyl, klerekas en sommer ‘n nuwe kar.

En so volg ek toe ‘n gedeelte van sy raad…

Verlede Donderdag maak ek my afsprakie by my stylist. Ek’s haar eerste klient, 8 uur, en het nog nie ‘n clue wat op my wag nie. Sy vra my wat ek wil doen met my hare. Wel, my due-date vir highlights was al bietjie(lankal) verby en sê toe dat sy sommer moet sny ook. “Hoe kort?” Ek toets toe haar reaksie en sê dat ons sommer groot moet gaan en ‘n GI Jane-styl doen. Haar oë was binne sekondes so groot soos pierings. Haha.

Terwyl sy aan die sny is, praat ons ‘n hond uit ‘n bos. Ek vergeet skoon wat aan die gang is, maar my oog vang toe ‘n rukkie later die sker se geblink in die spieël. Die rede daarvoor: die snyproses was nie ONDER my skouers aan die gebeur nie, maar ‘n entjie BOONTOE. Ek wou skree, HOKAAI STOP DIE LORRIE, maar sluk toe die knop in my keel en babbel maar voort. Sy vra my of ek nie die lang stuk hare wil hê nie, en my onmiddelike reaksie was; nee dankie, gooi dit in die asblik, weg! Daarna was dit highlights en tint en ek was so angstig om net te sien hoe dit lyk! Ek besluit om dit toe reguit te blaas ook, sommer om nou heeltemal anders te wees. Was bewerig toe ek myself in die spieël sien. Dis ‘n totale ‘nuwe ek’! Die ‘ou ek’ het in St 7 laas kort hare gehad en dit was reguit vir net ‘n wyle. Van daar af het ek dit bly groei en vrede gemaak met my natuurlike krul en hulle hul sin gegee.

Kort en reguit. Ek raak nogsteeds gewoond daaraan, maar die reaksie is darem positief en almal sê ek lyk meer gesofistikeerd, jonger en stylvol. Baie gryp net na hul monde uit verbasing en kannie glo dat ek die guts gehad het om dit te doen nie. Well, thank you very much!

Ek moet se ek voel ligter en goed. A change is as good as a holiday, dis nogal waar! En ek word nie meer raakgesien nie, niks meer vingers wat wys, geskinder agter hande, mense wat my volg om te hoor met wie ek op die foon praat nie, en die daaglikse vuurspuwende oë het bedaar, dankietog daarvoor!! Ek wou ‘n foto opsit, maar ek’s nogal bang vir tannie Marie wat my dalk sal uitken, en het toe liewer daarteen besluit My make-over is aan die gebeur, die nuwe kapsel was ‘n grootte, die nuwe klerekas sal met tyd gebeur, en nee dankie, ek is baie lief vir my karretjie en sal hom verruil vir niks anders nie! En dankie vir die goeie raad

Nou, blind dates… My gevoel daaroor is baie negatief. Volgens my kom laai ‘n wildvreemde man jou op, en julle twee gaan ALLEEN, gewoonlik na ‘n restaurant, waar daar dan vir ‘n paar uur gesels word om mekaar beter te leer ken. Ek het nogal ‘n probleem daarmee, want wat gebeur as die ou ‘n totale weirdo is, of daar niks is om vir mekaar te sê nie en jy wil escape met jou kar wat by die huis staan? Wel, Damario het ‘n paar tips(eintlik vir mans) so rukkie terug gegee indien jy ooit in so ‘n situasie beland Ek verkies dit om eerder in ‘n groep uit te gaan en nuwe mense so te ontmoet.

Ek het sommer vir hierdie post uit interessantheid gaan google oor die onderwerp. Manne(veral) en dames, LEES EN LEER!

Dating Rules For Women

General Dating Rules
•    Always look great, whatever your income. Gorgeous hair and some lipstick and wearing rags will still turn his head. You have the advantage, you are the woman. Look your best as you could meet a potential Mr. Right anywhere at any time.
•    Never reveal information you don’t have to. An enigmatic woman drives men wild.
•    Keep dates brief but your men interested. Less is always more.
•    Try and stay in shape and involve some fitness regime at a gym. However much you hate it, your Mr. Right loves your body as much as your mind.
•    Let your man pay. If he is interested, he is interested enough to ensure you eat well and get home safely in a cab.
•    Ensure you receive flowers, if he doesn’t know what a florist is, dump him.
•    Never ever sleep with a guy on the first few dates.
•    Always keep a guy waiting and never turn up early. It is a lady’s perogative.
•    Never be available when he wants you to be. Never be at the end of a phone when he calls and always let him leave a message or two first before replying.
•    If he is available Tuesday, you are available Thursday.
•    Weekend shopping trips with girlfriends are sacred and not available for dates.
•    Keep your man standing on quicksand by shifting landmarks and goalposts constantly.
•    Ensure you are a good kisser. Men will walk away if you cannot kiss. Practise on a  mirror if you have to.
•    Never ever talk about previous. The number of ex boyfriends is your business only.
•    Never pre suppose anything about your date until you choose to know him better. You cannot always tell by looking
•    If any man shows the slightest signs of possessiveness or insecurity run like the wind. Life is too short for boys.
•    If his shoes or hygiene are a disgrace dump him
•    Never talk too much about your father and how your date measures up in comparison.
•    Never ever come across as too available or too desperate, he will run a mile. He is the one doing the chasing remember.
•    If the guy in the corner is gorgeous go and get him and create the need in him for you. Never wait for men to come to you because you may watch him leave with someone else.
•    You may well have all the bodily functions of a man, just try not to demonstrate them early on.
•    If you are wanting a child, don’t mention it on the first few dates.
•    Never ever criticize his mother unless you want to remain single.
Online Dating Rules
•    Always let them come to you, don’t chase via email
•    Block anyone who annoys you instantly
•    Place the best & most vampish photo up you can find
•    Don’t reply to instant messages with clever opening lines
•    Remain aloof and let yourself be chased
•    Always reply to emails at least 3 days after receipt
•    Never provide you true email or phone details to the man
•    Always date safely and protect yourself at every turn
•    Make sure your login name is stunning and sexy as well as enigmatic
•    Do not login for hours on end. Short, rapid visits are best
•    Do not assume the man you are talking to is destitute or sad
•    Never ever reply to emails at weekends, wait until a weekday
•    Never state how good your sexual performance is in your profile
•    If you don’t want to date married men spell it out in your profile
•    A man who doesn’t reply to your email within 3 days should be ignored
•    Make sure your humor levels come across in text
•    Do not chat to hundreds of men at once, the delay in replying is a dead giveaway and your Mr. Right will be off.
•    Don’t even think about misrepresenting your size or description. They will find out.
•    Come across as cool and sophisticated for best results
Always remember ladies that you are a sexy desirable woman and the world is your oyster. Always let men do the chasing and always let yourself be the chooser. Always stay safe and never risk yourself for the sake of attending a date. Always use a safe dating website like www.LoveBrowser.com
Dating Rules For Men

•    Look your best.
•    Get your hygiene and styling sorted out.
•    Sort out your job if you have one. Women want a man who has some ambition in life so coasting along as a skateboard instructor is generally not going to win you a real catch.
•    Get your knowledge levels up. Make sure you are up to date with current affairs, watch the news and read quality papers. Women do not appreciate stupidity and laziness is no excuse either.
•    Do not extol the virtues of drinking in the bar 5 nights a week. This will never win any fair princess’s heart. If you love your booze sort yourself out as there are other things in life too.
•    If you love your sport then fine. If sport is a religion you may have a problem but everything by degrees guys.
•    Never expect sex on a first date.
•    Sort out your educational knowledge of manners, courtesy and chivalry. A woman likes being treated well, particularly with respect.
•    Start listening and stop talking. Keep your date interested but don’t turn into a one man entertainer.
•    Give up smoking now.
•    Lean to dance even if you have two left flat feet.

En hier is ietsie oulik: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nKq6_vjrxMo

Sjoe, ‘n paar vreemde puntjies hierbo en sommiges is volgens my heeltemal onnodig, want ek dink dit is baie belangrik en eintlik krities om net jouself te wees. Imagine nou die ou is vuilerig en grillerig en is bewus van dit wat vrouens verwag op ‘n eerste date, en maak hom slegs vir die geleentheid skaflik en oulik, net om ‘n week of wat daarna bewus te raak van sy dirty secets. Nee wat, be yourself, sodat die ander persoon kan besluit of hy/sy daarvan hou of nie. En online-dating is BAIE scary vir my en ‘n groot nee-nee!

Nou ja, sonder dat ek regtig ‘n keuse het, het ‘n paar van my vriendinne my geblind-date…Dis klaar gereël en hulle is soos ‘n klomp klein dogtertjies wat opgewonde is oordat hulle nie kan wag om ‘n persentjie vir hulle maaitjie te gee nie, en geheimsinnig! Maar ek is darem die kans gegun om ‘n paar vragies te vra. Hoe lyk hy? Ouderdom? Eerlik, eg en respek vir ‘n vrou? Wat is sy stokperdjies? Het hy ‘n sin vir humor? Waar werk hy? Nie getroud of ‘n  “popster”(wat later als afmaak as afleiding)/bekende nie? Is hy skoon en netjies en ruik sy asem lekker? En het hy mooi hande en tone? En en en…Ok, ok, ek weet, dis miskien klein bietjie te veel gevra, maar  ek voel ek het die reg om kieskeurig te wees. Ek is redelik gerus, want op elke vraag was daar ‘n thumbs-up en hy’s glo tall,dark&handsome ook. Daar’s nogsteeds een voorwaarde: ek ry met my EIE kar sodat ek kan huistoe as ek so voel!

Ek wonder nogal wat ek gaan doen as ons eenvoudig net nie click nie, en ek dit binne die eerste paar minute uitvind. Ek lag die afgelope paar dae baie hieroor en baie het al met slim plannetjies vorendag gekom vir ontsnapping…hiehie. Maar hey, miskien is hy baie nice en kan dit die begin wees van ‘n goeie vriendskap, vir nou. Want meer as vriendskap is bietjie van die tafel af. Ek meen, ‘n mens moet reg wees vir ‘n verhouding, jy moet weer kan vertrou en heeltemal jou hart kan oopmaak, en dit is natuurlik my heel eerste blind-date ooit!

Verder sien ek Ricky het ‘n interessante blog daar aan die gang(http://rickylouw.wordpress.com/), gaan loer bietjie

Was by ‘n lekker troue die naweek wat verby is, oppad soontoe en terug in die kar was hierdie liedjie op repeat, en ek is mal daaroor. Ek dink aKing kry heeltemal te min krediet en aandag, want ek hoor hulle te min!
http://www.aking.co.za/video.htm

Geniet die naweek, behalwe vir die blind-date, is dit my engel-peetkind(hy word ‘n volle 5!) en ‘n vriend(en hy ‘n volle 40!) se verjaarsdag-partyjies en Sondag is ‘n skaapboud-potjie-dag, lekker. En wees wakker vir smash&grabbers langs die pad!

Ps: Sal nogal interessant wees om te hoor wat julle make-over sal behels en wie almal betrokke is by online-dating. Enige ekstra tips vir blind-dates sal innig waardeer word, seblief en dankie! Haha

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